Rockin’ Quote #32: If He is Not Worthy

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Recently I came across this quote on a shirt that was being sold through one of those ads on Facebook. I am a bit obsessed with Vikings these days and viking lore. I am also obsessed with the TV show on the History channel. Anyway, this shirt, and several others were being sold through a viking page that I liked. I saw this quote and knew I had to have the shirt but the quote means so much more. “If he is not worthy” is only the start of the quote. Let me show you what I mean.

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I love this quote and it holds even more meaning these days than it ever did before. Sex and love are no longer seen in today’s society as something special. In fact, we’ve become so desensitized to it that we have forgotten how to set boundaries. Or even what boundaries are. Do we even know anymore? But the bigger issue isn’t that love and sex have become so mainstream that we don’t even blink an eye at the pure absurdity of the abuse of it. No, that’s not the real problem. We are so obsessed with showing the world that we are free, independent individuals capable of doing whatever we want, with whoever we want that we have lost our self-respect.

Many people these days seem to be confused about what love and respect really mean so let’s break it down:

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There are about a million different definitions for Love. These I got from Webster dictionary.

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Again, from Webster dictionary. Self-love and self-respect is basically turned inward. I just want to make that clear.

And I’m not just talking about women here. Both sexes seem to have lost self-respect. Here’s the thing about respect. Just like they say that you have to love yourself before you can love someone else. Well, the same rings true for respect. Now, I’m not saying you have to be celibate until you find “the one” or wait until marriage. I’m not trying to preach here. What I am saying is that we have forgotten the meaning of love and respect and we have forgotten to set boundaries with ourselves and with others.

What it really comes down to is your own sense of self. Who are you? How do you want to live your life? What kind of person do you want to be? Saying he is not worthy (and I also mean she because this does go for men and women) is saying this: If you can’t be there for me, stand beside in my darkest moments, you are not worthy of my time. We have a really bad habit of giving too much of ourselves to people who take advantage of us or take us for granted. When you stop to think about it, at the end of the day they only care about what you give to them. There is no regard for your needs or your happiness.

To others this quote could be just about sex. To me though, it’s about so much more than that. This is something I also feel is important to teach my boys. As a mother I don’t just teach them to respect women. I teach them to respect themselves. Saying a person is not worthy isn’t saying that person isn’t a good person. It’s saying that person is not worthy of your time and your energy. Even a good person can treat another badly. Don’t waste it on the wrong people. You deserve better than that.

Thanks so much for reading!

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Rockin’ Quote #31: Know Your Worth

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So Happy New Year everyone! I’m back with a brand new quote that I am piggy backing off of my previous post about 2016, which you can read HERE Know your worth. I love this quote because this past year has been a real challenge for me. True, 2015 was an even bigger challenge, when I put things into perspective, but 2016 was supposed to be better. It wasn’t.

It challenged my mental health in quite a few ways but the biggest way was through job searches and several attempts at improving my resume. Just the other day I finally realized that I need to remove a job from my list of experiences due to the lack of positive references. This isn’t something I have wanted to do before. After all, experience is experience and every little bit helps, right? Well, maybe not. Especially since that particular job had such a negative impact on me. My self-confidence in the work force plummeted because of my experience there. As my mental health also suffered. This quote helps me to remember who I am and what I’m worth.

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This past year I have doubted myself all too often. I sent out lots of resumes and cover letters. Both of these need to be improved. In 2015, I went on a few interviews that made me realize I need to improve my interview skills. All of these things though, have made me seriously question what I have to offer the world. Anyone who has questioned this knows this is not a good place to be.

It set me back on my journey of healing because of course whenever I start to doubt myself, I find myself wondering if my family was right about me all along. That I’m not good enough. I know better than that but still.  Acknowledging my flaws comes second nature, maybe for most of us. We are very familiar with our faults. But we don’t often understand or even know what our strengths are. This causes us to downplay our own worth. Not just our worth in the work place but our worth in general. Then I tell myself this quote: Acknowledge your flaws but know your worth.

I am reminded of George Bailey in It’s a Wonderful Life. Remember him? His life mattered to so many people yet he didn’t view himself as very valuable. He struggled to make ends meet for his family, his co-workers, and his town and because of that his self-doubt got the best of him. He didn’t know his own worth.

I am making it a point to remind myself of my own worth. You should too. Always know your worth and know that you are so important to the people in your life.

Thanks so much for reading!

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Rockin’ Post #30: Eat Your Soul

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I made this quote back in September but then things got really crazy and I kept forgetting about it. Haha! Yep! That’s me. Between the start of school and everything else that was on my plate I just plain forgot. So I guess this quote is perfect. Don’t let the world eat your soul. I’ll explain in a minute.

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I had this as a mantra for myself back during my therapy days when my head was all sorts of screwed up and my demons were wreaking havoc on my life. Since then, I have met so many people who deal with some form of depression or other mental illness who are on a battlefield with the succubus that is there to take their souls. for many out there on this battlefield of mental anguish, it is every single day. Each new battle brings new problems. They don’t get a break to breath or take in the sunshine. It is constant for them. To them I say, don’t let it eat your soul. If despair takes over and depression wins, your soul will be lost.

While I am talking on a mostly metaphorical level about mythological creatures and what have you, this is a very real thing for those suffering from depression and other mental illness. However, this also applies to those who are just going through hard times. Hard times that seem to go on and on and on…much like the energizer bunny.

The long and short of it is, sometimes life just sucks! Sometimes when it rains it pours and there seems to be nothing we can do about it. But if we keep moving forward and keeping looking up, our souls will remain in tact. This is especially in these uncertain times we are living in. With the new President most are scared. We are uncertain of our future but we must keep moving forward. So, don’t let the world eat your soul.

What do you think?

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Rockin’ Quote 31: American Spirit

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The American spirit has been challenged so many times over the centuries but for the past, I don’t know, 15 to 20 years our spirit has slowly been chipped away. This election season I’d say our American spirit has all but lost itself. We can get it back though. We are not so far down the rabbit hole that we can’t find our way out of the dark pit that our government has put us in. Thanks to Jeremy over at Thirsty Daddy for the quote below.

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Our young people are being taught to be ashamed of their country instead of being shown all of the great things this country was and can be again. We are failing to pass that pride down to the next generation. We are also not teaching our kids what it means to be American. The American Spirit was once a force to be reckoned with. We weren’t afraid to stand up and fight for what we believe in. We weren’t afraid of the hard work it takes to thrive and make our dreams come true. And we weren’t afraid to stand up to those in charge if we disagreed with them.

When we first came to this country, we were ruled by England. Then we started to disagree with them and we decided to go our separate way. We faced our fears and fought one of the greatest countries in the world with one of the greatest armies in the world because we believed in our cause. Were we afraid? Of course we were. Did we fight anyway? Damn right we did!

How many Native Americans fought and lost their lives because of what they believed in? How many African Americans risked life and limb to fight for their freedom during the Civil War.

World War II, we stood up to a tyrannical and seriously misguided leader, fighting side by side with our allies because we believed in our freedom.

Women’s suffrage, Civil rights, Vietnam: We stood up to those who would hold us down and we didn’t give up.

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But our kids don’t know this anymore. Instead, all they see is our fear and our anger. They aren’t seeing our courage and our strength. In order to move forward and make change, we must stand up and say, ENOUGH IS ENOUGH! Isn’t it time we showed our children what it really means to be brave? I don’t mean to fight in a senseless war that no one will win and everyone will lose. I mean by simply standing up for what is right.

What do you think?

Thanks so much for reading!

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Rockin’ Quote #29: I’m Not Being Mean!

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A couple of weeks ago Conner accused me of being mean. He asked, “Why are you being so mean to me mommy?” My reply was instant. “I’m not being mean, I’m being a parent!” This is almost coming off of a post I read a few days before. Jeremy over at Thirsty Daddy wrote something similar. He noted how sometimes we parents just need to be assholes and damn if he isn’t right! At least we are according to our kids.

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I get it all the time from Conner. Well, I shouldn’t say all the time. He is a good kid after all. It’s not like I yell every second of every day. Though there are times… Conner only says this a few times. When I ask him to take a shower. After I ask him to put his dish in the sink. When I tell him to brush his teeth. Tonight it was when I told him to go to bed.

beingmeanparent_rockinrandommomI know other parents can relate to the bedtime drama. Mine starts at 8:30 and doesn’t seem to end until around 10 lately. Every night I send him to bed at a certain time. He knows this but he wants to stay up. He is busy watching Minecraft YouTube videos and/or he has just come up with a new story in his head and he has to – no – HAS TO GET IT OUT OF HIS HEAD. This is actually something that I understand because as a writer, I am constantly coming up with new ideas for my stories. Somehow, they almost always seem to happen when I’m trying to fall asleep.

Because I can relate to this, I end up giving him 10 extra minutes. Then those 10 minutes get extended to 10 more minutes because he has just seen something so hilarious on YouTube that he has to finish watching it. Finally, I give him one more shot to get to his room and lay down. When he argues with me, I yell. And this is what leads to me being mean.

I have to do the parenting thing and send him to bed. I’m not being mean. Just looking out for his well being. I get that his imagination is so big that if he doesn’t play out these stories through imaginative play, he feels like he will burst.  HE STILL HAS TO GO TO BED!

Yep, I have then turned into the asshole parent that yells at her 9 year old because he won’t go to bed. Then I turn into the asshole parent who takes his iPad away from him once he is finally laying down because if I don’t, he won’t go to sleep.

By the end of this encounter with the small human I created I am ready for a glass of wine that I must down before I can drift off to sleep because once I lay down, my imagination starts running a muck. I think I’ve created a monster.

Thanks so much for reading!

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