What Christmas Means to Me

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Christmas is a wonderful time of year! Next to Halloween, it’s my favorite holiday but it isn’t just the holiday. It’s every thing the holiday represents. Good Cheer, Christmas decorations, hot chocolate, snowmen, and being with family. We celebrate several different holidays this time of year as well. We have Hanukkah, Kwanzaa, Winter Solstice, among many others.

However, for the past – oh I don’t know – five or six years, I haven’t been in the mood to celebrate. I’ve gone through the motions but I haven’t felt much in the way of the Christmas Spirit for quite some time. I even wrote a post about not being in the spirit a couple years back HERE

In the past I have suffered from depression this time of year and it played a major role in my lack of Christmas cheer. Last year was probably the worst year due to the unhealthy relationship I was in at the time. You can read more about that HERE and HERE However, I think in hindsight it was the best thing that could have happened to me.

I know what you’re thinking. How can an unhealthy relationship be the best thing? Remember when I said I was just going through the motions with every holiday? Last year I couldn’t even think straight. Last year was just different. After the break up, the blinders came off and not just with the relationship but with my life. I went down the rabbit hole of deep sadness then when it was over, I came out so much happier.

It set me up for a better year, a better Christmas!

For the first time since I was a teenager I was in the Christmas spirit in November! Thanksgiving came and I was so excited to watch the parade with my oldest and ready to watch Christmas movies right after. I couldn’t wait to decorate my home or get the tree. I don’t actually have my tree yet but I’m so excited to get it this week and play Christmas music while decorating it with my kids!

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It’s like the magic came back for me. It is flowing through me and the spirit of this wonderful season is working its magic in my soul! I have been baking cookies every week since Thanksgiving and not begrudgingly. I am enjoying the baking again!

I do have to give credit to my new gamer friends!

I struggled for a while after my break up to find other gamers that I really enjoy playing with and talking to. I joined a Destiny clan and met some really great women with whom I share a lot in common. Four of us are parents and the others are just a pure joy to talk to and play with. I can enjoy gaming again but more than that, I have finally found some like minded people who have lifted me up and helped me through a tough time.

I also have to give credit to my new advocacy position at Safe Passage!

I have written about this recently. HERE is the post if you want to read it. I have met some really great people through this organization. Safe Passage is a non-profit that advocates for those who have suffered from Domestic Violence. We provide resources, shelter and legal advocacy as well as a crisis hotline and education in the community. I love working  here because of the people I work with.

They are such a supportive and compassionate group of people. I look forward to my work every day because of the supportive environment they provide. Through this work I have gotten my confidence back. My last work experience was pretty bad and I lost my confidence in my skills but now its back. I feel better than ever!

So what does this have to do with the Christmas Spirit?

Everything! When you have good, positive people in your life, it’s contagious. Next thing you know, you’re positive and you’re happy. When you have a great group of supportive people who are willing to listen to you and offer you positive feedback, that affects your outlook on life.

I have great people in my life and I have gotten rid of the negativity that has surrounded me for the past few years. Because of this I am now feeling the same way I used to feel as a kid. Christmas was always my favorite time of year. I lost that for awhile. I’m so fortunate to have found my way back to it again!

So Merry Christmas to all of you! I wish you much happiness with whatever holiday you celebrate this season and best wishes for all of your holiday dreams!

I am leaving you with one of my favorite Christmas songs by one of my Favorite all time actresses: The late great Judy Garland!


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46 thoughts on “What Christmas Means to Me

  1. A lovely positive post and I’m so glad that you enjoyed this Christmas. Thank you so much for joining us at #TweensTeensBeyond during 2017 and we hope to see more of you in 2018 xx

  2. Oh Michelle I hope you enjoyed your break with your family over Christmas. I have completely switched off and loved just being in the here and now. A great fan of that Judy Garland song too! What is not to like? See you in the New Year. #TweensTeensBeyond

  3. It’s so great that you have managed to surround yourself with such positive and supportive people, it really does make all the difference. Have a great Christmas and enjoy your time off.
    Thank you for joining #FamilyFunLinky x

    1. Yes things are definitely looking up now that I’ve rid my life of negative people. Have a very Merry Christmas to you and yours! 🎄☺️

  4. I am so glad you have found good friends it does make such a difference. You reminded me of the quote be a radiator not a drain. I love being around positive people because that is reflected whereas I always feel drained after spending time with negative people. Thank you for linking up to #ablogginggoodtime and have a fabulous Christmas 🌸
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    1. I always feel drained after being around negative people so being around positive people is what my life goal is because they really do make all the difference in one’s life. Merry Christmas!🎄

  5. I am so happy that you are rediscovering the joy in Christmas and the magic. You deserve such happiness, your heart is just so kind. Continue to surround yourself with people who lift you up! Merry Christmas to you and your family xx Thanks for joining in with #mg and for all your support this year, it means more than I can say

    1. I’m so glad that I can be there for you as much as possible and I wish you the best holidays with your family and friends Mac! Merry Christmas! 🎄

    1. Thank you so much! I have so much more appreciation these days to have such great people in my life. Have a great Christmas!🎄

  6. I am sad that you were in a toxic relationship and had a bad Christmas last year but I am so thankful that this year you are in a much better place. I hope you have a fantastic Christmas lovely you deserve it x

  7. Consumerism seems to have taken over a bit, doesn’t it. Growing up, Christmas was always about family and church. My dad was the minister, so he always had to work at Christmas, taking the services 🙂

    1. Yeah it’s sad that a lot of people nowadays have to work through the holidays but we make the most of it with spending time with our families☺️

    1. I think sometimes people have to spend time with the wrong people in order to find the right people to spend Christmas with but yes! I absolutely feel the best part about Christmas is spending it with those who make us the happiest!☺️

  8. Aww what a lovely post. The most important thing about Christmas to me is family and having them around me. It was different growing up, but it’s what I want my kids to have. Glad you have found the Christmas spirit. Enjoy and happy holidays x #mondaystumble

  9. I love this! Yes, the focus can sometimes be on the materialistic side of things. However, I agree having good people around you is so important and that for me is what Christmas is about x

    1. Yes it is! It’s the people you surround yourself with that determines how special Christmas is but not just Christmas. All year long:) thanks so much for your lovely comment!☺️

  10. I’ve done a ‘what Christmas means to me post for next week’. It’s such a special time of the year and no matter how much they try to commercialize it, the spirit of Christmas still lingers. Family, friends, good cheer – that’s what it’s all about and I’m so happy you’ve found your Christmas mojo again 🙂

    1. Yeah the commercialization can get a bit overwhelming because of the superficial vibe to it but when keeping in mind the real meaning behind the holiday, it’s easier to ignore that stuff and focus on the cheer and family:)

    1. Yes I am so glad I got my spirit back and am looking forward to celebrating with my family. I am also looking forward to shopping for my new friends:)

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