Rockin’ Quote #32: If He is Not Worthy


Recently I came across this quote on a shirt that was being sold through one of those ads on Facebook. I am a bit obsessed with Vikings these days and viking lore. I am also obsessed with the TV show on the History channel. Anyway, this shirt, and several others were being sold through a viking page that I liked. I saw this quote and knew I had to have the shirt but the quote means so much more. “If he is not worthy” is only the start of the quote. Let me show you what I mean.


I love this quote and it holds even more meaning these days than it ever did before. Sex and love are no longer seen in today’s society as something special. In fact, we’ve become so desensitized to it that we have forgotten how to set boundaries. Or even what boundaries are. Do we even know anymore? But the bigger issue isn’t that love and sex have become so mainstream that we don’t even blink an eye at the pure absurdity of the abuse of it. No, that’s not the real problem. We are so obsessed with showing the world that we are free, independent individuals capable of doing whatever we want, with whoever we want that we have lost our self-respect.

Many people these days seem to be confused about what love and respect really mean so let’s break it down:


There are about a million different definitions for Love. These I got from Webster dictionary.


Again, from Webster dictionary. Self-love and self-respect is basically turned inward. I just want to make that clear.

And I’m not just talking about women here. Both sexes seem to have lost self-respect. Here’s the thing about respect. Just like they say that you have to love yourself before you can love someone else. Well, the same rings true for respect. Now, I’m not saying you have to be celibate until you find “the one” or wait until marriage. I’m not trying to preach here. What I am saying is that we have forgotten the meaning of love and respect and we have forgotten to set boundaries with ourselves and with others.

What it really comes down to is your own sense of self. Who are you? How do you want to live your life? What kind of person do you want to be? Saying he is not worthy (and I also mean she because this does go for men and women) is saying this: If you can’t be there for me, stand beside in my darkest moments, you are not worthy of my time. We have a really bad habit of giving too much of ourselves to people who take advantage of us or take us for granted. When you stop to think about it, at the end of the day they only care about what you give to them. There is no regard for your needs or your happiness.

To others this quote could be just about sex. To me though, it’s about so much more than that. This is something I also feel is important to teach my boys. As a mother I don’t just teach them to respect women. I teach them to respect themselves. Saying a person is not worthy isn’t saying that person isn’t a good person. It’s saying that person is not worthy of your time and your energy. Even a good person can treat another badly. Don’t waste it on the wrong people. You deserve better than that.

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30 thoughts on “Rockin’ Quote #32: If He is Not Worthy

    1. Yes! Boundaries are so so important yet we aren’t setting any and we don’t even think about setting any with others or with ourselves. It’s definitely something that’s lacking today. Thanks so much for stopping by!😊

    1. Yes, we do have to live with ourselves and we have to love and respect our selves. If we don’t we can’t expect anyone else will. That’s very important and I think the message gets lost in today’s society. Thanks so much for stopping by!

    1. I think having boys has helped give me a different perspective because I e been treated like shit by a lot of men and was very close to becoming one of those bitter and angry women. I was for awhile. By watching my boys and figuring out that I can teach them a better way but also loving them so much that I want others to treat them with love and respect really has done wonders for me as a woman and also as a parent. Thanks so much for reading!😊

    1. Yeah that is true but I’m hoping that more and more women learn from their mistakes and realize their value and that they deserve more respect than they get.

  1. This is a very important message to send to young men & I’m glad you’re discussing it with your boys! Today’s media, pop culture & music, etc doesn’t send the right message about women. I feel like it objectifies us!

  2. This is so true. Right now i’m having some issues with relatives and hubby is right there holding my hand letting me handle the battle. I know if it got too much he is ready to jump in and help if needed. He’s seen me at my worst and still wants to stick around therefore i’ll be nice and share a bed with him hahaha. though i do love a starfish sleeping pose.. poor hubby! #ablogginggoodtime

  3. Great post and I totally agree with the quote, I think that far too often we give ourselves in every way to someone without thinking about our self worth or whether they are worthy of us.

    1. Exactly! I also think that this comes with life experience and deep soul searching. At least for many people. Thanks so much for stopping by!

    1. Thank you! I’ve been away for too long and am trying to slowly get back into it. I miss writing. Thanks so much for reading my blog!😊

  4. Love the quote & love the sentiment you have written about self-love & self respect. Both are definitely undervalued & it seems like people think it’s wrong to love yourself. It’s not an egotistical love that’s important, it’s a pure unconditional love & we need to love ourself before we can love others! Thank you for sharing your quote with us at #candidcuddles xx
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    1. Yes and I’ve been coaching a few people on the value of self love and self respect in order to heal from past mistakes and traumas. It’s easier said than done but the work you put into learning how to love yourself is completely worth it. Thanks so much for stopping by Becky!

    1. It seems that so many people these days don’t even understand what that word means anymore but I have hope that we can turn things around for our kids. Thanks so much for stopping by!

  5. AWESOME quote, so spot on! I wish I had understood that years ago, but I guess I didn’t love or respect myself enough to believe I deserved better than what I was receiving. I can only hope to raise my kids to know they deserve love an respect, and that I will never make the mistakes of my past again. Great post! #candidcuddles
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    1. It’s the same for me Mac! I guess on the outside I portrayed a self-respecting person but my actions showed me otherwise. Of course I didn’t understand that at the time. Did any of us in our 20’s? I also hope that I’m raising my boys to have self-respect and self- love because only when we have achieved that can we be truly happy. Thanks so much for stopping by!😊

    1. Exactly! I’ve been reading a lot of articles lately that talk about that very thing and also based on my own personal experience – and mistakes I can say for myself that sex is about so much more than just sex. Thanks so much for reading Agent Spitback!

  6. I think that people have a real problem figuring out who they are, being comfortable with themselves, and that until they do its really hard to completely give that self to another person. Great quote, Michelle. It’s good to see you writing again

    1. You make a really good point. People don’t take the time to get to know themselves first before handing themselves over to another. Instead they seem to think the other is going to save them from themselves. They don’t realize that never actually works out. And thanks! I’m glad to be writing again. Thanks so much for stopping by!

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