Rockin’ Quote #23: Real Love

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Growing up, I often lived in my imagination. It was how I survived a rough childhood. I wasn’t introduced to fairy tales until I was about 6 years old when one of my aunts read me a book based on the Disney version of Cinderella but it wasn’t until I was 8 years old when I went to the movie theater for the first time to see Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs. The visual of what true love was, sent my imagination roaring and like every other little girl of the time, I began to develop a vision of what my true love would be, not knowing then that true love is a fairy tale but real love so much more important.

Through the years, my ideals of romance and love have changed. Being married for 10 years really opened my eyes and educated me on what it is that real love is and what I want. How I view romantic love is so much different from how I saw it as a little girl, idolizing Fairy Tale princesses and looking to them to learn about love. Even though marriage didn’t work out for me, I now know what I want in love and in a relationship. I want it to be real. I want it to be genuine. I am not interested in being swept up in the moment because the moment passes but what comes after, that is what really matters.reallove_rockinrandommom

I also believe that friendship is the foundation for a great relationship. Not all friendships are meant to go past that stage but I do strongly believe that to have a successful relationship, a genuine and mutually respectful friendship needs to exist. This is what I mean by real love takes time because you have to know someone in order to love them and getting to know someone can be a truly rewarding aspect of any relationship.

How has your notion of true love, or real love, as I like to call it, changed over the years?

Happy Valentine’s Day!!!

Thanks so much for reading!

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32 thoughts on “Rockin’ Quote #23: Real Love

  1. I really don’t believe all these perfect couples you see on in the media and what friends portray. Relationships take work, understanding and patience. We are far from perfect but adapt to each other to make things work

  2. Couldn’t agree more. Friendship makes a very important foundation for a relationship. My idea of love changed as I became an adult I think. I realised more what it was about rather than the fairy tales I thought it was

    1. Yeah I think that for most of us our ideas of love change over time and experience but I stand firm that I want a friend. A best friend before anything else. That’s super important to me.

    1. Yeah I have learned that love at first sight is more like lust at first sight. Though I do believe you can connect to someone right away but love still takes time to develop and grow.

  3. Couldn’t agree with that quote more. My partner and I are completely committed to each other but it’s far from romance in fact we haven’t ever celebrated Valentine’s Day or an anniversary 😂 x #bloggerclubuk

    1. Anniversaries were always a thing I liked to celebrate but it’s not for everyone and after being with someone for a long time it becomes less and less important. At least it did with my ex-husband and I. Thanks so much for commenting!😊

    1. Right now my boys are my loves too. I don’t need anyone in my life. At least until the boys are older and don’t need me anymore.

  4. Although my hubby and I met on the Internet we chatted for two months before meeting up and we formed a friendship. Once we did meet we quickly became the best of friends and both our friendship and love continue to get stronger. Its definitely a real love. Fairy tale love isn’t real in my eyes x

    1. It’s not real for me either. Those fairytales are very misleading but we learn as we get older (hopefully) and we each develop our own sense of what love is. I’m glad you found your best friend:)

  5. I think that quote pretty much hits the nail on the head. I’m not a romantic and am very difficult on times. I love my husband and he loves me. We have forgotten what our relationship is in the midst of having the kids. Hopefully, as things start to settle we’ll be able to spend more time together.

    1. Yeah I hear that making time for each other is essential and that’s something my ex husband and I missed because we were all about being parents and kind of forgot about each other. I hope you and your husband find more time together too:)

  6. I used to have those idealized thoughts of love too when I was younger. Now, I’m happily married to my best friend. Real love for me has been having my best friend always there when I need him. I think that is the reason why our relationship is so strong and we’ve seen so many of our friends and family struggle to stay together. For us, it’s unimaginable to have life any other way. Being best friends means that we can be comfortable with each other. Whether we’re watching TV, cooking dinner or doing chores, we can be 100% ourselves. You are so right about real love being rooted in friendship. I couldn’t imagine my marriage being any other way. <3
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    1. That’s what I want when I’m ready to be in another relationship which won’t happen anytime soon but coming out the other end of a failed marriage I now know what it is I want next time around:)

  7. Such an honest post – my view of love and romance has definitely changed over the years! When I was young I thought it would be all fireworks and swooning, but actually it was friendship and understanding which led to love for me. 🙂 #happydiaries
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    1. Friendship is the best part about love for me because the friendship is real and usually long lasting. That’s what I’m looking for when I’m ready for the best relationship. I still have trust issues so having a meaningful friendship that builds trust is so important to me.

  8. Great quote, so true. As much as I do love Disney, the fairy tale romance we are brain washed with as little girls definitely does not help you deal with real life. It doesn’t tell you love may not work out that you may have to kiss a lot of frogs to find that prince and you both have to work hard every day at it and never stop working at it to make it last. Thanks for sharing love your posts as always! #candidcuddles
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    1. That’s exactly right and because of that too many people, men and women alike, get dislusioned by it and either give up or don’t stop looking for “perfect”.

  9. MIchelle you are spot on with your observations. I’ve been married 27 years and the heart and soul of my relationship is respect and friendship. Yes, when we are little our minds are full of nonsense as to what a relationship should be like, based on rom-com’s and Disney. But as we get older we learn to see what is real and what is unreasonable.
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    1. That is very true. When we are kids we build up fantasies based on what we see on TV or hear on the radio or what our parents show us but as we get older and learn more about the world and have more personal experience we start to realize that our childhood fantasies are just that. Thanks so much for stopping by!

  10. I think friendship is a great foundation for marriage. Marriage is definitely a tough one. I think your quote is really great & so true – very realistic! The love we see on TV or movies or read in fairy tales is quick & fantasized. True love does take time. Happy Valentine’s Day! Thanks for taking part in the Valentine’s Day Candid Cuddles!! x
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  11. I am glad I have boys so I don’t have to buy into the Disney princess idea of love. I hate it! I’m not entirely sure what real love is but with hubby and I I is about accepting each other entirely, imperfections included and we always have each other’s backs.
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    1. I think that’s the best way to be in love Catie. To have each other’s backs and accept one another completely. It seems to be so hard to do for people these days does t it? Happy Valentine’s Day!💕😉

  12. Wow, very touching… Dean Cherman said “I don’t stay married because I am in Love, I stay in Love because I am Married!” Although he talks about being “In Love”, what I get from it is exactly what you just said…. The reward is in getting to know the other person and when you are married, its supposed to be an ongoing get to know! Happy Valentines day 🙂 #CandidCuddles
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    1. I like that quote and I agree. People do change throughout their lives and a couple who can change together with open open eyes and open hearts learns so much more about each other and can fall in love over and over again. Thanks so much for stopping by! Happy Valentine’s Day!💕😉

  13. I couldn’t agree more and I know that my idea of relationships has changed a lot over the years. My parents repeatedly divorced throughout my childhood, I didn’t have a clue what a ‘good’ relationship looked like. My husband and I continually wing it, but we are friends first and foremost. A beautiful reminder! thank you for linking up, take care and have a lovely week xx
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    1. I also didn’t have the best example of how relationships should work either and it played a part in both myself and my ex failing to make our marriage work but we also both learned from it and I now know what I really want in a relationship and that is definitely friendship first. Thanks so much for stopping by! Happy Valentine’s Day! 😉

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