100 Truths Blogger Tag

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I have been tagged in this great get-to-know-you post called 100 truths. My friend Debbie over at My Random Musings wants to know 100 truths about me so here I am, about to bare my deeply guarded secrets for all the world to see.

So here we go. My 100 truths:

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What’s Your Name?

Michelle

2 Any nicknames or aliases?

My closest family and childhood friends call me Shelley.

3 Your gender?

Female

4 Your star sign?

I am a Cancer baby! (on the cusp of Leo)

5 How old are you?

 40

6 Your relationship status?

Happily Single

7 Any children?

2 Boys 

8 Any pets?

2 Cats

9 Any tattoos or piercings?

I have 4 tattoos (and counting). My ears are pierced and in my twenties I used to have a belly ring

10 What do you like about yourself?

My inner strength.

11 What do you dislike about yourself?

When I lose my temper. It happens very rarely but when it does, I tend to get a bit scary and that I definitely don’t like

12 Righty or lefty?

I am actually ambidextrous. I started out life as a lefty but got called the devil’s child a lot by my first teacher and some family members so I learned how to write with my right. Now I can use both.

 

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These answers are as of Sunday, November 19th

13 The last thing you drank:

Coffee

14 The last thing you ate:

Popcorn

15 Your last phone call:

My brother

16 Your last text message:

My ex-husband

17 Your last email:

From work

18 The last song you listened to:

The Look by Roxette

19 The last book you read:

Lacey Patrick and the Wizard of Darkness 

20 The last time you cried:

 The Walking Dead. Sheva, the Tiger died. Yes, I cried over a fake tiger. 

21 The last blog you read:

Heather’s blog, Shank You Very Much

22 The last person you spoke to:

My son and my nephew before falling asleep last night

23 The last place you visited:

Baltimore, MD 5 years ago

24 Your last holiday abroad:

I haven’t had the pleasure yet. Someday though.

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25 Have you ever gotten back with an ex?

Yes 

26 Have you ever been cheated on?

Yup

27 Have you ever cheated on someone?

Nope

28 Have you ever lost someone special to you?

Yes, several

29 Have you ever been so drunk you threw up?

Only twice

30 Have you ever fallen out of love with someone?

Yes. 

31 Have you ever met someone who changed you?

Yes. That’s what relationships do though. They either change you for the better or for the worse but we always change. It’s part of our life experience. Without change, we don’t grow. Without growth, we don’t evolve and without evolution, we don’t become who we are meant to be.

32 Have you ever been in a situation where you found out who your real friends are?

Definitely

33 Have you ever kissed someone you probably shouldn’t have?

Yep

34 Have you ever found out people were talking about you behind your back?

Yes

35 Have you ever broken someone’s heart?

Yes

36 Have you ever kissed a stranger?

Yes

37 Have you ever had your own heart broken?

Yes

38 Have you ever had sex on the first date?

Yes. I was young and dumb. I’m older and wiser now.

39 Have you ever been arrested?

No

40 Have you ever been attracted to someone that isn’t the gender you usually find attractive?

No. Unless it’s Eliza Dushku, (Faith in Buffy, the Vampire Slayer). Now she’s one I’d consider 😉

41 Have you ever done something you regret?

Yes but again, in hindsight, I needed to learn the lesson

42 Have you ever had a threesome?

No. Not my thing.

43 Have you ever embarrassed yourself in public?

Yes.

44 Have you ever misjudged someone?

Yes, definitely

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45 Do you believe in God?

Yes but my beliefs are complicated

46 Do you believe in yourself?

Most of the time

47 Do you believe in Santa Claus?

I believe in what he represents, so yeah

48 Do you believe in ghosts?

Absolutely!

49 Do you believe in aliens?

I do. Our universe is just way too big for there not to be other lifeforms somewhere out there. 

50 Do you believe in miracles?

Definitely! 

51 Do you believe in the power of positive thinking?

I do! 

52 Do you believe in love at first sight?

No. Love takes time

53 Can money make you happy?

No but enough money to make me live comfortably wouldn’t hurt.

54 Would you describe yourself as a feminist?

I consider myself a humanist if I am going to label myself anything.

55 Are you pro-life or pro-choice?

Pro-choice

56 Do you have strong political beliefs?

Depends on the issue 

57 Do you have strong religious beliefs?

No. I am very spiritual but religion itself is too rigid for an open-minded person such as myself.

58 What do you think the most important thing you can give a child is?

Love and compassion

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Again, as of Sunday, November 19th

59 Are you eating anything right now?

No

60 Are you drinking anything right now?

Coffee

61 What are you listening to right now?

The wind blowing the leaves around outside.

62 What are you thinking about right now?

Getting ready for my teenager’s 16th birthday party

63 What are you waiting for right now?

I hope everyone we invited shows up to his party

64 What are you most excited about right now?

My son’s party. And playing Destiny 2 with my gamer clan later tonight

65 What’s your pet hate right now?

Liars and manipulators. I’ve always had a strong disliking to them but recent experience with my ex-boyfriend really brought that to the forefront.

66 What’s your favorite thing right now?

Meditating to my calm app. It has really helped with my anxiety and stress level

67 If you weren’t answering these questions, what would you be doing right now?

Cleaning my living room, haha!

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68 Your first best friend:

Her name was Sherry. We were 5. I still think about her from time to time.

69 Your first kiss:

Kenny. I was 16, he was 15 and had braces but great kisser.

70 Your first celebrity crush:

Tom Selleck. I was about 5 or 6 and he was Magnum P.I. That smile! Those dimples! That mustache!

71 Your first holiday:

My first vacation was camping at 8 years old. 

72 Your first pet:

His name was King. He was part Rottweiler (I think) and part German Shepard

73 Your first regret:

Taking my friend’s boots in fifth grade without permission

74 Your first job:

Wendy’s and I hated it!

75 Your first childhood memory:

Running around the house buck naked and my mom chasing me. Don’t know much else that was going on or how old I was. 

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76 Love or money?

Love

77 Twitter or Facebook?

Facebook

78 Hook up or relationship?

Relationship

79 Dogs or cats?

 Cat. They’re more independent

80 Coffee or tea?

Coffee

81 Beer or wine?

Wine

82 Sweet or savory?

Savory

83 Introvert or extrovert?

I’m a bit of both depending on my mood but I guess I’ll pick Introvert

84 Vampires or werewolves?

Vampires!!! (Though I do love werewolves too)

85 Seaside or countryside?

Seaside

86 Summer or winter?

Summer

87 Books or movies

I love books but I’ve always been a big movie fan

88 Horror or comedy

Horror

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89 Do you wish you could change your past?

I used to but now I don’t wish it at all. My past made me who I am today and  I love who I have become

90 What’s your dream job?

Successful Author and public speaker/motivator/mentor to trauma survivors

91 What’s your guilty pleasure?

I have no idea really. Maybe sometimes I rock out to Taylor Swift on my phone? I don’t really consider anything I do a guilty pleasure.

92 What are you afraid of?

Losing my kids

93 What was the first thing you wanted to be when you grew up?

A teacher and a rock-star simultaneously 

94 If you could have any super power, what would it be?

I’d be invincible

95 If you could change anything about your life what would it be?

I would have changed my major and double majored in Psychology and English Literature

96 Would you want immortality?

Yes

97 If you could interview anyone alive or dead who would you choose?

Queen Elizabeth I.

98 Would you say you are happy?

Yes

99 What one piece of advice would you give to yourself at age eighteen?

Don’t take everything people say too seriously. People will always underestimate you. Let them. You don’t owe them anything.

100 Where would you like to be in five years’ time?

I want to have at least my first novel published, living comfortably and helping trauma survivors through my books, public speaking and mentoring. I would also like to have traveled to the UK.

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I’m Tagging

I’m tagging the following fab blogs to take part – don’t forget to let me know when your posts are live so I can check them out.

Heather from Shank You Very Much

Tracey from Hooks and Dragons

Alana from Burnished Chaos

Louise from WeeOhana

Ana from Faded Spring

Catie from Diary of an Imperfect Mum

Mackenzie from Reflections of Me

And I’m supposed to tag 10 but this is all I have. If you want to join, then tag, you’re it! And to add a little music to this Manic Monday:

Grab the questions below if you would like to take part:

The Basics

1 What’s your name?

2 Any nicknames or aliases?

3 Your gender?

4 Your star sign?

5 How old are you?

6 Your relationship status?

7 Any children?

8 Any pets?

9 Any tattoos or piercings?

10 What do you like about yourself?

11 What do you dislike about yourself?

12 Righty or lefty?

 

Lasts

13 The last thing you drank:

14 The last thing you ate:

15 Your last phone call:

16 Your last text message:

17 Your last email:

18 The last song you listened to:

19 The last book you read:

20 The last time you cried:

21 The last blog you read:

22 The last person you spoke to:

23 The last place you visited:

24 Your last holiday abroad:

 

Have you ever?

25 Have you ever gotten back with an ex?

26 Have you ever been cheated on?

27 Have you ever cheated on someone?

28 Have you ever lost someone special to you?

29 Have you ever been so drunk you threw up?

30 Have you ever fallen out of love with someone?

31 Have you ever met someone who changed you?

32 Have you ever been in a situation where you found out who your real friends are?

33 Have you ever kissed someone you probably shouldn’t have?

34 Have you ever found out people were talking about you behind your back?

35 Have you ever broken someone’s heart?

36 Have you ever kissed a stranger?

37 Have you ever had your own heart broken?

38 Have you ever had sex on the first date?

39 Have you ever been arrested?

40 Have you ever been attracted to someone that isn’t the gender you usually find attractive?

41 Have you ever done something you regret?

42 Have you ever had a threesome?

43 Have you ever embarrassed yourself in public?

44 Have you ever misjudged someone?

 

Your Beliefs and Opinions

45 Do you believe in God?

46 Do you believe in yourself?

47 Do you believe in Santa Claus?

48 Do you believe in ghosts?

49 Do you believe in aliens?

50 Do you believe in miracles?

51 Do you believe in the power of positive thinking?

52 Do you believe in love at first sight?

53 Can money make you happy?

54 Would you describe yourself as a feminist?

55 Are you pro-life or pro-choice?

56 Do you have strong political beliefs?

57 Do you have strong religious beliefs?

58 What do you think the most important thing you can give a child is?

 

Right Now

59 Are you eating anything right now?

60 Are you drinking anything right now?

61 What are you listening to right now?

62 What are you thinking about right now?

63 What are you waiting for right now?

64 What are you most excited about right now?

65 What’s your pet hate right now?

66 What’s your favourite thing right now?

67 If you weren’t answering these questions, what would you be doing right now?

 

Firsts

68 Your first best friend:

69 Your first kiss:

70 Your first celebrity crush:

71 Your first holiday:

72 Your first pet:

73 Your first regret:

74 Your first job:

75: Your first childhood memory:

 

Which would you choose?

76 Love or money?

77 Twitter or Facebook?

78 Hook up or relationship?

79 Dogs or cats?

80 Coffee or tea?

81 Beer or wine?

82 Sweet or savoury?

83 Introvert or extrovert?

84 Vampires or werewolves?

85 Seaside or countryside?

86 Summer or winter?

87 Books or movies

88 Horror or comedy

 

A few random questions to finish on

89 Do you wish you could change your past?

90 What’s your dream job?

91 What’s your guilty pleasure?

92 What are you afraid of?

93 What was the first thing you wanted to be when you grew up?

94 If you could have any super power, what would it be?

95 If you could change anything about your life what would it be?

96 Would you want immortality?

97 If you could interview anyone alive or dead who would you choose?

98 Would you say you are happy?

99 What one piece of advice would you give to yourself at age eighteen?

100 Where would you like to be in five years’ time?

Thanks so much for reading!

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Book Review #4: Lacey Patrick and the Wizard of Darkness

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For my fourth book review, I am writing about a slightly different kind of book. My friend Deborah over at My Random Musings is on fire with her novels! She continues to surprise me with her writing as she tries new genres and pushes the boundaries of her own style. This time she has delved into the fantasy genre with her latest book, Lacey Patrick and the Wizard of Darkness.

When Lacey Patrick dreams of a hot stranger, her whole world turns upside down.

What she learns fill her with dread – not only must she process her whole new identity, but she must also find a way to save herself and her loved ones from a dark force that is stronger than anyone has seen before.

Who can she trust? How can she stop someone so powerful?

Time is running out and Lacey has to find the answers to those questions, and quickly – before it’s too late.

That’s the blurb from Deborah Stansil’s latest book. Sounds pretty interesting right? I thought so which is why I volunteered to read it for this review. She didn’t let me down either. First, I loved the change in the genre. It is refreshing to read a fantasy book for a change.

What Lacey Patrick and the Wizard of Darkness is about:

Different from the usual horror and psychological thrillers I’ve gotten used to reading by my friend Deborah Stansil, this book goes in a different direction, aiming at the young adult fantasy genre. Even though it’s YA, I think adults will also thoroughly enjoy this book.

Ms. Stansil takes us on a journey of a young witch, who doesn’t know she’s a witch until that hot stranger arrives in her life. From there, Lacey will have to navigate finding a dark wizard among her classmates while navigating high school, new love, and finding out who her true friends are.

What I think of the book:

I loved this fresh take on a high school fantasy and I loved this unique look at witches and wizards. Lacey isn’t part of an “in” crowd so to speak but she isn’t entirely an outsider either. I don’t read many books with the middle guy/girl as the main character.

There are several different characters that I, personally, liked very much while others were a bit stand offish. For me, Lacey’s best friend, Kiera wasn’t my favorite character and Lacey’s feelings towards her friend in the end I completely identified with.

There is some predictability with a few of the characters but the end was a bit unpredictable in the way of Deborah’s writing. You’ll have to read it to know what I mean. I like the predictability though because I didn’t have to think too much. While I do love a good book to challenge me, I also love books that I can just sit back and relax with. This book did that for me.bookreview_laceypatrick_rockinrandommom

This book is great for reading while taking a hot bath or for reading at the beach. Now that it’s Autumn, though I can also see myself reading this during a quiet evening to myself with a glass of wine while sitting under some stringed lights and scented candles nearby.

In my line of work where self-care is essential after counseling those with trauma histories, reading a light-hearted fantasy book like this is perfect. It gets me out of my head and transports me to another world entirely. This is a great self-care activity that I enjoy and this book is going to be on my book shelf for a long time.

I strongly recommend this book to anyone who likes fantasy but also to anyone looking for a new book to read. Are you ready to try something new? Try this book! Deborah’s book was just released this past Friday on November 11, 2017. So hop on over to Amazon and purchase her Kindle book today!

Thank you for reading my book review. I hope you enjoyed it!

I have two links below. One for America and the other for UK/Europe:

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Amazon: UK

Thanks so much for reading!

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Dear Inner Child (Letter to Little Me)

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 Dear Inner Child is not just a letter. It is an acknowledgement that I was once a child. When children live through abuse, they often don’t see themselves as children. They don’t see themselves as deserving human beings. It took a long, long time but this is me finally recognizing my child self was worthy.

Dear Inner Child, 

Hello beautiful! I know you don’t think you are beautiful but believe me when I say that you are. You don’t feel it because of how you are treated. You aren’t told and you aren’t allowed to be you. You are beautiful because of your creativity and your ability to see more than most. You are beautiful because you have a big heart and a beautiful soul.

Dear Inner Child,

You are a survivor. I know you feel very lonely but you put that loneliness aside for your family. You adore your mother and look up to her but its your siblings who are your world. You feel responsible for them. You are the oldest after all. You feel strongly and without a second thought that they need to be protected. You won’t be able to protect them from everything and this will haunt you for a long time. It will even affect your parenting in the future.

You will become obsessive with protecting your children. More so than most parents because you will remember that failure and that will lead to fear that you will fail your children. But know this dear girl: Your siblings will go be okay. They will have their own battles to fight. They won’t need you to be their protector. They won’t need you to be their mother. What they need is for you to be their sister.

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When they go through hell, be there for them. When they have to fight their own battles, be supportive. When they fall – and they will – don’t judge them. Give them space. Listen to them. It will be hard sometimes because in your eyes, they are angels. You see their potential. You see their worth way before you see your own. They sit high on that pedestal but they are only human. Just like you. Understand that they have to find their own paths. You will each find your own way. Believe in that.

Dear Inner Child,

You feel so much with such depth. You are curious by nature and are a deep thinker. You don’t recognize this yet because you have to hide yourself. You have to lock away your emotions and show no fear. You also have to hide your pain. For a long time, even those closest to you will not know what you’ve been through and how you feel.

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Locking these emotions away will cause resentment within you. This resentment will boil to anger and rage. By the time you are an adult, that anger will spill out. I’m not telling you this to scare you dear girl. I just want you to be prepared. I also want you to know that you got this. You see, just like your siblings, you will fight against your own demons and you will win.

My dearest inner child,

You will go through most of your life believing you are a freak. You will be convinced that God hates you and that you are monster. Well, I’m here to tell you that you’re not a freak. You’re not a monster. You are a human being with real, human emotions and a mind of your own. You stand up for yourself and for others. You are a fighter.

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You will have many insecurities, especially as a teenager and young adult. You will feel so much shame and humiliation. You will hide them well but remember this: Every human has insecurities. We aren’t perfect. We are not meant to be and that is totally okay. People will manipulate you and try to take advantage of you but you will learn from these experiences.

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You have always believed that every child is a gift but you always excluded yourself from that belief. So hear me now, young one, you are a gift. You are just as much a gift as every other child on the planet. God doesn’t hate you. The universe isn’t out to get you. All the pain and loneliness you feel right now will turn you into a vibrant, powerful, compassionate, and strong woman.

My dear, dear inner child,

You will get knocked down but you will ALWAYS get back up! You will make mistakes, but you will ALWAYS learn from them. Why? Because you are a warrior.  Because everything you have gone through will lead you to a better path. You don’t know this yet. You can’t even comprehend it but you will love yourself.

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You are a Survivor. A Fighter. A Warrior. And while your siblings and your children will be your heroes, you will  become your own hero. You will find your own worth and you will love and be loved beyond all measure.

You are my hero!

With love and respect,

Adult You!

There is more to say but I’ll leave it here for now. Thanks so much for reading!

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Short Story: Werewolf Next Door

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This is my first short story. It’s about a teenage girl in foster care who happens to be a werewolf. 

I’ve been in the foster care system since I was 6 years old. Now I am almost 18 and I know what that means. I’ll be out on the streets. Now for some kids this is terrifying. For others, it’s better than what they have. For me, though, it’s freedom. It’s freedom because at 16, I discovered something about myself that is a whole lot scarier but also extremely liberating. I’ve had to keep it under wraps for the past two years. I am a werewolf.

I was never bitten. I didn’t have a scary experience walking home one night with a werewolf jumping out at me. No it was nothing like that. It also wasn’t as dramatic as it is in the movies. It didn’t happen suddenly. It was a gradual thing that honestly, I thought was just part of puberty. That is until I started hearing sounds from over a mile away and my eyes would occasionally go from emerald green to a bright gold color. Those are changes I didn’t expect.

Then as my 17th birthday got closer, I grew fangs and claws during the full moon. I got stronger too and I developed a low growl that even scared myself. After a lot of research I learned what I was but not how I came to be. Was I born like this? Why is it showing up now? But make no mistake, I am definitely a werewolf.

I’m heading to my last foster home. Sitting in the back seat of my social worker’s car, I am writing this down as I listen to Linkin’ Park in my headphones. I want to remember this moment. I am going back to a home that still gives me nightmares. I need the strength of my favorite bands to get me through this.

As the song, Fight by All Good Things plays, the car stops. I pause the song but stare at my journal. I hate this place! Then I hear my social worker call my name. “Rayven. We’re here. Grab your stuff.”

When we get to the door, a woman answers. I remember her. Sheila is her name. Her hair is a mess. She looks like she just woke up. After a few pleasantries are shared I am shown to my room.

later that evening, HE comes home. As soon as I see him a knot forms in the pit of my stomach. I feel like I am going to throw up but I also am struck with intense rage. I can feel my teeth changing, getting sharper. I have to close my eyes because I know they are changing too. I can almost feel it happening. It’s hard to explain but my head hurts. It only ever hurts when my eyes are changing.

What is happening? I learned awhile back that it doesn’t take the full moon to make me change but I am losing control. I have to get a handle on this. But I am just so damn angry! Right now all I can think of is ripping his throat out. The more I think about my desire to rip him apart, the more I feel the change.

At that moment, I don’t know what came over me but I put my headphones on and ran up to my room. I shut the door and turned off the light. I have to let the music calm me so I play some Florence and the Machine. Thankfully, he didn’t follow me up but I still have his image in my head. That cocky smirk that flashed across his face as soon as he saw me. He thinks he has me but he will never, ever touch me again!

But I also need to control myself. Just six more months until I’m free. I just need to get through the rest of the year. This guy though. He will test me for sure. How will I keep myself from going full wolf on his ass when every time I see him I want to kill him?

No! I won’t let him win. I won’t lose control. Just six more months. Then I can leave this hell hole and never look back. You got this Rayven. Just six more months then you will be free.

That is the end of my story. What did you think? I have more for this character but for now I leave it hear. Let me know what you think in the comments.

 

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Parents also Friends?

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Parents also friends? Recently I have been asking myself this question as I am very close with my kids. I have read several articles about how it’s not okay to be your child’s friend in order to maintain proper authority over your children. If we coddle our children and consider them our friends, then we must not be doing our job as parents, right?

This mentality comes from the aftermath of a generation of self-involved, spoiled, and entitled young adults known as Millennials. This generation has a bad reputation, though to be fair, so did my generation. Generation X was otherwise known as the slacker generation so I don’t hold much stock in reputations. Anyway, we are still raising some of that generation. My oldest is a part of generation Y. He is none of the above things his generation is known for.

I keep seeing articles titled, “I am not your friend!” While reading the article I can see that the mom loves her children but she comes off as being somewhat of an overbearing person. I don’t believe that is the case but it got me to thinking. What does friend mean in the context of parenthood? Well, let’s start with the basic definition of what the term friend means. I looked this up and didn’t expect what I read:

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Do you see the first definition there? ONE ATTACHED BY AFFECTION OR ESTEEM. Here’s another one I came across: parentasfriend_rockinrandommom

Isn’t that interesting? Who woulda thought? It’s a bond. Now we each have our own definition of what a friend is and what kind of friendships we want in our lives. Typically, most of us define friends as someone NOT related to us who we have mutual affection for and a bond with. But these definitions include family. When we think of family though, we think of our siblings, cousins, aunts and uncles. We don’t think of our parents or children as friends.

Then I thought, well, what goes into a friendship? Friendship is more than just a bond. In order for that bond to even occur, you have to be there for one another. A friend is someone who listens to you. A friend laughs with you, argues with you, cries with you. Hmmm… I do all of those things with my kids.

Being a Mother First.

I always tell my boys that I am their mother first. I will always be their mother before anything else. They are well aware that I will put my parenting above everything and anything. It’s just that important to me that I raise kind but strong men. I am not a strict mother by any stretch.

I have very few rules. I am not a stickler for doing chores because I don’t ask them to do what I, myself, am not willing (or just too lazy-I mean, tired to do). There are three major rules that I have though that are of the utmost importance for them in life.

Rule #1:

Don’t talk back! Now of course, growing up, kids are going to do this. It’s part of the process of childhood. Pushing boundaries is a way of life for kids. I also encourage my boys to have their own opinions and to speak their minds. However, talking back is disrespectful and that is something I DO NOT tolerate in my house.

Rule #2:

When I ask you to do something, do it! This is another one that kids will argue about. They’re kids. If you’re a parent and you expect your kids to not moan and whine when they are asked to clean their room or brush their teeth, you’re in for a rude awakening. In their minds they have better things to do like play Minecraft or watch cartoons. That doesn’t mean I won’t get on their asses about it though. Again, it’s about respect.

Which leads to me to…

Rule #3:

Never Disrespect Me! I DO NOT, under ANY circumstances, tolerate disrespect (notice the theme here?). For most parents, this probably goes without saying. For me, it goes much deeper than that. I was never treated with any respect growing up. Because of that I will respect my children. I respect their privacy and their opinions, even if I disagree with them. Most important, I respect their feelings and their boundaries. In return though, I expect them to show me the same respect.

Because of these three golden rules I am raising two pretty great kids. I’m not a strict parent but I’m no pushover either and they know it. I allow them to be who they are. And you know what? Because of that, I have learned so much from them. I have learned to see the world through their eyes and boy is it amazing!

What about you? Do you agree or disagree with parents being friends.

Thanks so much for reading!

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